She Was Deemed Unmarriageable—So Her Father Gave Her to the Strongest Slave, Virginia 1856

"Yes," he replied without hesitation. "I will protect you. I will take care of you. And I will try to be worthy of you."

"And I'll try to make the situation bearable for both of us."

We sealed the deal with a handshake, his enormous hand engulfing mine, warm and surprisingly gentle. My father's radical solution suddenly seemed less impossible.

But what happened next? What I learned about Josiah in the months that followed. That's when this story takes an unexpected turn.

The agreement formally came into force on 1 April 1856.

My father performed a small ceremony, not a legal wedding since slaves were not allowed to marry, and certainly not one that white society would recognize, but he gathered the servants, read some Bible verses, and announced that Josiah would henceforth take care of me.

"Speak with my authority regarding Eleanor's welfare," my father told everyone present. "Treat her with the respect her position deserves."

A room adjacent to mine was prepared for Josiah, connected by a door but separate, so as to maintain a semblance of decorum. He moved his few personal effects from the slave quarters there: a few clothes, some secretly accumulated books, the tools from the forge.